What to Do if You’re Married to a Narcissist?
You may have noticed it’s been a while between the last post in the Narcissist Series and this one. It’s because this is so hard for me to write and also, not everyone will agree with me. This subject has caused a good deal of pain and dissension in the church, so I don’t enter this discussion lightly. Nor do I claim to have the authoritative answer. I don’t. I’m using my experience dealing with narcissists, my experience counselling people in narcissistic relationships, many hours of reading and researching authorities on the subject (counsellors, pastors, etc.), seeking the Lord and trying to put all that together to write these posts.
As an aside, there are a few random facts to note:
- It is quite unbelievable how many narcissists are running around. They are everywhere–under your nose, sitting beside you in church, running your local school board–everywhere.
- I want to make a clear distinction between narcissistic abuse being addressed in these posts and other jerkish behaviours. (I may have already made this distinction but it can’t be overemphasized.) I’m not talking here about just someone who struggles with pride (ahem…we all do). Or someone who has a rough-around-the-edges personality. Many difficulties in marriage are successfully repaired with proper counselling and help. And there are annoying behaviours that can be overlooked with grace and patience. The narcissist is a specific type of person, which is why I feel it’s so important to use the term to help differentiate.
So the question: What to do if you’re married to a narcissist? (If you are in a different relationship with a narcissist–not marriage, there are different answers/approaches, none of them easy. Each one has its own, difficult road.)
Bad News About Narcissists-3 Options
First, the really awful news about this is narcissists rarely (that’s being generous) change. I’ve read countless articles by psychologists and counsellors in all types of environments and hands-down, they agree with this statement.
As I mentioned in the last post, a person claiming to be a Christian but committing consistent, emotional abuse is, in fact, not a Christian by definition, regardless of his claims. One must display the fruit of Christianity (repentant over sin at the very least) to be a Christian. So if you think you are married to a narcissist, you must face the reality that you are dealing with an unrepentant sinner, but worse, doesn’t see his sin, and therefore doesn’t see his need for a Savior.
Because of the very nature of this trait, they can’t see their wrong, so they rarely see their need for change.
At this point, I wish there was something I could say to soften this harsh blow. I don’t have anything. I don’t understand it and I wish I did. It seems like they could be reasoned with or that they could understand rational explanations. But they can’t.
IMPORTANT (Update): A common problem is that a woman is not believed (by family or church) when she tells others about her abuser. (And be warned: it is also very common for the abuser to play the victim. I’ve seen it done and done very well. In this case, the wife was the narcissist and convinced others her husband was the abuser.) I think often, in the spirit of respect and submission she doesn’t share with anyone about her husband’s behavior because she wants to honor his reputation. Then when everything hits the fan and she speaks up, others find it unbelievable. She may even have bragged about what a great husband and father he is on social media (a tactic of reverse psychology, maybe?)
My suggestion is to share with someone, even several others, and do not keep the abuse hidden. At least if you decide to leave, there will be a “trail” of efforts you made to preserve your marriage and your support group will not be so hard to convince.
1st. Divorce
There are really only 2 options, a possible, difficult third. The first is to get a divorce. Some churches and Christian counselors believe that divorce is only acceptable for a Christian if there is infidelity in marriage. They cite Scriptures like “God hates divorce” (Malachi 2:16) to strengthen their counsel. This verse is grossly misunderstood when used to pressure a woman to stay in an abusive relationship (it actually explains the opposite of what it is sometimes used for).
How do I know? Because the verse is written specifically to men who were abandoning their wives, which in that culture, meant almost certain destitution for them. God was angry because husbands were mistreating and being unfaithful to their wives and leaving them without protection. It goes on to say that the man “who hates and divorces his wife does violence to the one he should protect.”
The whole passage is about God’s anger toward men who treat their wives unlovingly and do not protect them. He was seeking justice for these oppressed women. How could God say in the same breath, “But if you leave your abusive husband that’s not OK.”
That’s the tip of the iceberg when it comes to God’s thoughts toward those who are being oppressed or hurt by those in authority. Do some research about how God feels about the mistreatment of the weak, poor, needy, oppressed, and abused.
Another verse that allows for biblical separation but is often misunderstood is 1 Corinthians 7:15. Here is a snippet of explanation about it but if you want to read the entire article, click here.
“When applying 1 Corinthians 7:15, the key question is not “Who walked out?” but “Who caused the separation?” Would it be sensible to say that David was the sinful rebellious one when he left Saul’s court? No, he left because of Saul’s abuse. David left, but Saul was the cause of his leaving. If we translate the word chorizo as “separate” we see this more clearly: if the unbeliever separates, let him separate. The unbeliever is doing the separating; the believer is commanded to let it be done. This tells the believing spouse (and the church) to allow the marriage to be over, because the unbeliever has destroyed the covenant. It permits the victim of abuse to take out a legal divorce. Let there be chorizo = let there be separation = let there be legal divorce, because the word chorizo means both separation and divorce.”
What God hates more than even divorce, is abuse. Mistreatment of others, especially by those in authority over people they are meant to protect. I feel confident saying that it is biblically acceptable to seek a divorce from an abusive spouse, once all measures have been taken to bring them to repentance.
Even in simple passages in Proverbs addressing the “fool,” or the “mocker” (biblical terms for narcissist) we often read passages such as, “Drive out the mocker and out goes strife. Quarrels and insults are ended.”
Furthermore, God Himself divorced His unfaithful bride. (Jeremiah 3:8)
It is very important that if you consider divorcing your spouse you have a plan–a back-up support system and safety plan in place. Narcissists can be dangerous, especially when their power and control unravels. Hopefully, your church would be that safe place, but if not, find one that is, or confide in family and friends who can help you.
2nd. Learning to live with it.
This option is difficult but not impossible. I know women living with abusive husbands and have been for many years. Leaving is very hard. Sometimes it feels impossible. Without a strong support group, especially, turning your life upside down, finding yourself financially responsible and in every other way responsible, feels overwhelming. Some people never get to the breaking point where they are willing to give up these necessities/comforts.
If you choose to stay you must educate yourself with how the mind of your spouse works. You can pray and hope and believe, and I don’t discredit that spirit of faith. But as I mentioned before, the difficulty with this specific type of person is that they don’t see a need for change, therefore change rarely happens. They believe they are right and everyone else needs correction. They thrive on feeling power and control.
A “good wife” tries to be kinder, more reasonable, more agreeable more, more, more. And it’s never enough. It never will be. To live in this situation and survive, I think it’s wise to study “how to live with a narcissist” which involves learning how to set hard boundaries, coming to the harsh reality that you will not receive from your spouse what you want (love, affection, real companionship, empathy) and finding your ultimate peace and joy in the Lord. He must be enough.
It’s a tragic death of a dream, if you will, and the sooner you come to terms with that, the better. You must find joy in other things, not your marriage.
This is a terribly painful road and you will need friends and family who understand and can support and encourage you.
The 3rd option.
Separation. This would be for the person who cannot believe that the Bible allows for divorce–an infinite separation (which will likely end up with your spouse divorcing you ). I’m throwing this out there because, as I said, I don’t have all the answers. I believe with all my heart that God would far rather see his beloved free from an abusive spouse than maintain a sanction of ceremony for appearance’s sake. That’s not the way I see him operating in Scripture.
Conclusion
I can’t emphasize enough the importance of seeking out the counsel of someone who understands this type of abuse. If not, you may end up in counselling where your abuser manipulates and turns you into the perpetrator. Be clear and concise when describing your situation to others. Even though you may be confused, it is important to paint a picture of what is happening in your home.
Often the wife has been taught to protect her husband’s reputation under the guise of submission. We are never called to hide a person’s abuse. Ever. This is not a case of looking over his weaknesses. This is calling out an oppressor. (If, in fact, he fits the description I’ve described in these posts–consistent, manipulative behaviour that seeks to bring pain, shame and blame, refusing to own the hurt, etc.). Bring it to light and it loses its power.
I pray you will find some help and encouragement from these posts. I would love to hear your thoughts.
Kelly,
Thank you for speaking truth and bringing this subject into the light. I spent 13 years in a marriage with a narcissist. Five years ago, my husband’s abuse escalated out of control and he became violent. At that point, I told him that he could no longer live in the house with me and my children. His response was to go to a pastor at our church and tell him that I was the abuser and unfortunately the pastor believed him. He also cut off all financial support and stopped making house payments so our home went into foreclosure. I was terrified and several times I even considered going back to him but God provided for our every need during this time. God provided us with a townhouse (all maintenance provided) and we never went without food. I tried several months of separation but the abuse and threats continued. I finally reached a breaking point and filed for divorce. It was the best decision I ever made for myself and my kids. During the divorce, my husband was so out of control that the judge only allowed him limited supervised visits with the kids and no overnight visits. This arrangement was made permanent when the divorce was final. The judge’s heart was truly in the hand’s of God. The past 5 years have been some of the most difficult years of my life but God is good and he has provided for us every step of the way. I went back to college and graduated last fall. I now have a healthcare job that I love. I am able to work 2 nights a week and support myself and my kids. This allows me to continue with homeschooling my kids. My church also recognized that my husband was the abuser and we now have an amazing support system within the church. I want to share my story to help and encourage other women in the same situation. Leaving an abuser can be scary but I cannot imagine choosing option 2 listed above and staying in a marriage with a narcissist. That is not what God intended for a marriage relationship. My faith and trust in God has never been stronger. He has used this situation to draw me closer to Him.
Amy,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is encouraging and I’m so thankful the Lord directed your steps the way He did. Bless you.
Thank you for sharing, this is so profound and it goes a long way helping victims. I went for option 3 and indeed it led to him divorcing me. I am thankful that I am living in peace and the kids also.
This is such a powerful story! It gives me hope.
The main reason I don’t leave, is because I’m scared to.
My husband has successfully isolated me from all of my family and friends and I am mainly financially dependent on him. Also, our house is owned by his family, so I would be homeless.
I am so glad that you had the courage to leave!
Kelly D.,
Finances was the main reason that it took me so long to leave my marriage. I had many nights of sitting in our soon to be foreclosed house just sobbing because I did not know what to do. God provided everything we needed. If you have faith and it is truly God’s will for you to leave the marriage, He will provide everything you need.
I took my troubles to the Lord; I cried out to Him and He answered my prayer. (Psalm 120:1)
He will feed His flock like a shepherd. He will carry the lambs in His arms holding them close to His heart. He will gently lead the mother sheep with their young. (Isaiah 40:11)
I praise God for what He has promised. I trust in God so why should I be afraid? What can mere mortals do to me? (Psalm 56:4)
Trust in the Lord always, for the Lord God is the eternal rock. (Isaiah 26:4)
Thank you, I needed this encouragement and am seeking employment. Thank you for sharing. It was year 14 for me aNd he has not after saying he would 4 months ago. I have a new church home and a great group of friends that support me. Your testimony gives me hope for me and my son.
Kamilah, I so glad you were encouraged. May the Lord give you courage and wisdom.
My husband is not only a covert narcissist but comes from a family that is over-run with narcissists. The thing is, not all of us are ‘abused’. He is what he is and I do not take it for one minute- he gets called out by me very frequently. It’s very difficult to live out a biblical model of marriage under these circumstances but we have persevered for 25 years. The Lord has not given me permission to divorce him over this. If I could recommend one thing to unmarried women it would be to never ignore those red flags while you’re dating. Covert narcissists are very hard to spot unless you become very close to them, so KNOW your potential mate inside and out before you tie the knot. Watch them closely when they have a bad day. How do they handle rejection? Do they constantly blame everyone but themselves? Narcissists are usually charming people but as the Bible says, charm is deceptive.
I’m sorry, Brenda. That is very good advice. And you’re so right; they can be very difficult to spot.
Brenda,
You are so right about paying attention to the red flags before marriage. Everything that I knew about my husband before we got married was a lie. He pushed so hard for us to get married quickly and now I know why. He was struggling to keep up with his lies during the engagement and knew after marriage he would not have to do that anymore. He completely changed the moment after we were married. When he proposed to me, I was very clear that I did not believe in divorce. He used that against me during our entire marriage. If I did not do or say exactly what he wanted, he would threaten me with divorce to make me comply. The first time that he did this was on our honeymoon.
Brenda…
Your admission that as of yet. The LORD has not given you permission to leave, is extremely commendable. I too, have not been given permission to go… yet, and maybe never.
I have been married 40 years, coming up on the 41 anniversary. I do not say that your choice is commendable because it agrees with my (present) testimony, but because I know how EXTREMELY difficult that it is to live that choice out, much less articulate it verbally inside our (professing) Christian culture.
As for myself, I had a radical conversion experience at 27, already married. with a 4 year old daughter and pregnant…
I had not grown up in church, knew nothing of God or His Word; but my encounter with the LORD dramatically changed my life, and my entire worldview from that point on. My husband had wanted an abortion, and threatened to leave me if I did not obtain one. In the torturous crisis going on in my soul. God met me, and I put the entirety of my trust and my future in His Hands from that day forward.
There is much more to my story, as there is with all of us, but this next part is necessary in order to make sense of my reply to your comment and why I thought it necessary to post.
In the years following, I grew my faith alongside raising my (now) three children with their Father as an unbeliever. He didn’t leave me, at least not in that way, but he traveled for work 50 to 75% of our marriage. He was disengaged, very passive-aggressive, and I walked on eggshells when he was home. Yet, as I read the Bible, and digested it with the churches worldview about marriage, and in particular the wife’s role in mind, I believed that One plus God was a majority-that as I obeyed God, He would work the “miracle” of His provision into what I thought was MOST important to Him—marriage., Not just marriage in general, but as God’s first institution, our best way of displaying Gods glory, and through faithful parenting, the most prosperous design of Discipleship.
As I look back, of course there are truths to these core beliefs… but, not in every marriage, or at any cost. In some cases, mine included, the more I prayed, served and sacrificed for my husband, the marriage itself didn’t change, nor did his sense of responsibility to me or his family; but, his own self centeredness enlarged and entitled, strengthened his use of “authoritative” power, control and dominance.
And I was the sphere and source of His coercive confidence. My devotion to God and His Word, were security to him, allowing him to freely treat me in any way he wished.
As time moved forward, I became more and more influential in church leadership. at one point becoming head of women’s ministry, and the person most women called for counsel. I don’t believe I ever gave “wrong” doctrinal truths, or bad suggestions, but I now know that to some, I gave hopeless and helpless and even perhaps harmful counsel. I pray that The LORD has or will cover and correct everything for those women that might have caused them further harm.
About 6 years ago I went back to school to get more education on psychology and biblical counseling and earned two degrees. God used that to awaken me to my true reality and then…? everything I feared, came upon me…(Job 3:25)
When I revealed to the church the true condition of what was happening in my home, I was not believed. I was not helped. I was shamed and shunned.
Not only that, I had so elevated the reputation of my husband (because I thought exposing his sin was “uncovering” him and disrespectful, And, I maximized the significance of even the smallest breadcrumb he gave me) that they bought the lie, hook line and sinker.
They believed he was the victim in all of this. I actually have a multi-paged letter from one of my former pastors that explains my sin to me in scriptural detail.
I was devastated, alone. no support system, even my kids (who are married with kids of their own) wanted no part in breaking the illusion that I so ignorantly created. I was the “perfect wife” and had the “perfect marriage… I lost everything. Except God.
As I saw counselors, joined online support systems, I was repeatedly told he would never change ( yes… he is a vulnerable narcissist), and told the only “happiness” I could ever hope to have was to leave, to divorce. Not holiness…happiness. so puzzling? I wonder sometimes if we are reading the same book?
Any way, I believe that God said no—at least not today. So I ask Him for grace for the “day,”
This particular season in my life has been the most excruciating experience in my life (and I have had a lot of bad seasons). And it would have destroyed my faith in God…if that were possible. but He did pry my hands from things I put too much faith in, things He is (or will be) shaking.
I want my truest heart’s desire to please Him… not be looking to live the life I “deserve” (Again, Where is that written??)
As Christians, should we always be looking for ways out, and instead learn (of Him) how to find ways endure the hard places?
At least be looking for what His will is in the situation rather than always succumbing to how we feel about it?
Philippians 1:25 is deeper now… I think I am learning His bigger reasons for suffering “for His sake.” The “conflict” may be more with our faith than in the problem… at least the is the case for me.
One of the hardest losses was the shattered dream of what I believed the church was… so I no longer attend the “building.” Unless there are massive changes in the “building,” I don’t see myself ever trusting that kind of spiritual “authority” again. However, I never stop “assembling together” with true believers who are all stumbling forward in the same obedient direction.
My husband quit attending “church” the day I left. He no longer called the Elders for prayer, or asked for their help… he didn’t need to. He won.
Now validated, my abuse and neglect are without any authority bigger than my husbands will…at least it seems so today. But I know it will not be that way forever.
I believe with ALL MY HEART that some human pathologies require a very specific strategy to deal with, rather than the “normal” pray more, have sex more, basically asking a victim to satisfy the whims of her abuser for the sake of marriage (and perhaps the reputation of God or the church).
No woman or for that matter a man, wants to admit their partner is a narcissist if you are talking about the true definition and not the world’s connotation. Narcissism is a worldview, belief system that cannot see or understand what it might be like to be “not them.” they identify only in satisfying or gratifying their own perceived needs no matter the cost to the “other.” Their happiness often comes at the expense of others. They don’t care or can’t care, depending on the expert you are listening to, but over all I think most agree, at best, it is a willful ignorance. In their mind, there is no concept of connection. only control.
I am 63 years old, 40 + years in a relationship, just recently learning that it was operated by one person on both sides. Sometimes I kind of wish I had died in that illusion…making justifying adjustments here and there to cope with the cognitive dissonance inside me. but only sometimes. I am just saying Brenda, God may have an assignment in your suffering. Don’t let anyone other than Him tell you what you “should do.” if He has called you to stay…have confidence in His calling. May His peace be yours-Laura
Thank you so much for this post, Kelly.
I have been married to a narcissist for 17 years now and will continue to remain married to him for as long as I can.
Every so often, I have to have “time-out” at extended family and friends houses, just a few days where I can recoup, gather my strength again, and come home able to withstand it for a bit longer.
Twice, we have separated temporarily and this does seem to work, for a time.
Eventually, I will probably leave him, but for now, I want to carry on living with him for as long as I can. Option 2 is definitely difficult, but I think it can be done.
This post is so encouraging.
Thank you.
Beautifully done, Kelly. So important, thank you so much!
On whether to leave or stay in an abusive marriage, Leslie Vernick says (paraphrased) in her book The Emotionally Destructive Marriage:
“If you stay, stay well. If you leave, leave well.”
That first part is so important. If you can withstand your abuser’s tactics, then staying is an option. If not, and the emotional destruction continues to chip away at your wellness and ability to function in the sphere in which God has placed you, you are not bound. An abusive, unrepentant spouse has already broken asunder the marriage covenant.
The wellness of the whole family should be considered, too. What impact is the spousal abuse having on any children at home? Is the abused spouse healthy enough to properly care for her (or his) children, or is coping with the abusive marital relationship sucking all the abused spouse’s energy? An abused spouse needs to stay well not only for her own sake, but also for the sake of the children or other vulnerable individuals she serves in her life.
Heart-wrenching questions, with difficult answers.
Bravo!!!!!!
Hands down this is the best explanation of Narcissist Abuse I have ever read.
THANK YOU!
Mindy Smith
You should know, Kelly. You’re a raging narcissist yourself.
Really “LeeAnne” (you have soooo many names),
You know me?
Thank you for this. It was exactly what I needed to read.
I lived this life for way too many years and my husband past away , and when I cried it was for all that never was or could be. I almost didn’t make it ,but God was and still is so very good to me. so thankful to have over come it ,I almost didn’t. Ladies please beware.
Ruth, that is so, so hard. I’m very sorry.
This article along with so many others assume that the man or the husband is usually the Narcissist. This is not always the case. I’ve been married to one for over 15 years. I’m not in a position to divorce right now. Kids are young. But she goes on a rage almost on a daily basis with me over little things. She throws things she would come across during the rage and would start cursing. She has no empathy and would never admit she is wrong and would never apologize. She has a victim mentality and thinks the world is out to get her. Absolutely hates going to work and wants to control every move of everyone else in the household. If she doesn’t like something or can’t find something she would blame others and go on a rage. So please don’t think only husbands and fathers are abusive. There are a lot of women that are equally abusive of their families and the trauma to children and husbands and others in their family are enormous.
This is awful, Simon. I know a few women like that, and convince everyone else their husbands are the narcissists.
My wife of 12 years has never done housework, laundry or anything asked of her without rewards above and beyond what I already give her.
She admitted had 3 year period were her purpose was to make my life a living hell. She did get a part time job in the 5 through the 9th year but all her money was her money and never saved for anything including her kids birthdays and Christmas.
I have gotten counselling but do not know what to do. As a Christian I am lost. There is no separation on PA. She is a covert narcissist happy with here TV and phone all day long. We are over 55. Help
I am a 43 year old man who has been married to the same woman for 13 years. My oldest daughter came to me recently expressing deep concern about my wife’s behavior. After comparing notes I realized for the first time after 13 years that I am not crazy. After investigating her behavior it appears that she aligns with an NPD symptomology. She has never apologized for anything over the last 13 years, is unforgiving, holds grudges, shows no empathy and constantly gaslights, blame-shifts and plays the victim. Every one of my faults has been extrapolated and blown out of proportion, and then I am demonized. Ironically, she does the exact same thing (and worse) that she accuses me of. It is virtually impossible to get her to see her own sins and flaws. She speaks in generalities, name calls, and is demeaning. Now that I have realized what the problem is, I have been able to distance myself emotionally and not get so caught up in her ploys, but I feel very hopeless and despondent, especially with our 4 kids.
I am so sorry, Andrew. I know from watching it in other friends’ lives, it’s about the most misery someone can imagine.
I’ve been married over 23 years. I can’t remember the last time for intimacy. He said it’s because he’s not interested in me anymore. He tells me I wouldn’t have anything if it wasn’t for him. My husband expects dinner at a specific time, house cleaned, bills paid, groceries gotten, dog bathed, (kids are grown but it was my responsibility for them), plus work full time a meaningless job he never appreciated or approved of. I hear him ranting at me about how I should do this and not that, do it this way not that way even if he’s not here. I am finding myself saying to myself God just take me. I’m tired But I want to live. It’s just I’m really tired. I ask myself should I leave. Where would I even go. I fight with my emotions. I am strong today but tomorrow I am weak. I have pain I set it aside. He’s got me where he most happy. Vulnerable, no money, in need of insurance, no where to go.
Diane,
I’m so very sorry you are going through this. Do you have any family or church friends who could help you?
Here’s a new twist: I AM the covert Narcissist wife, BUT I have cried out to God for years to help me to be kind and caring and to help me keep my mouth shut, but instead, I ridicule, I accuse, I argue, I show him nothing but disdain & disrespect; I cannot take criticism, am self-righteous, have little empathy, etc, etc! BUT I have cried out to God over & over to help me change. WHY CAN’T I? I went to a counselor for a few months & she told me I am not a Narcissist, yet I fit most of the criteria & my daughter has convinced me I scapegoated her as a child. You all admit narcissists can’t change & the abused should just leave us, yet you also say I CAN’T BE A CHRISTIAN if I am Narcissist and that I will go to Hell. Give me some hope, please! Jesus Christ is my Everything!
Terry,
Inasmuch as you see your sin and have a desire to change, that is HUGE hope and I would argue that that very fact distinguishes you from what I have described here. The typical person with NPD can NOT see their fault at all. Never take responsibility and since they can’t see it, do not see any need for change. That is not at all you! We all have narcissistic tendencies, by the way. Some more than others, but what I’m describing here is so severe that one refuses to see his harm to others as a problem. You don’t fit this category and there IS absolutely hope. Keep bringing it to Jesus, keep repenting and seeking to die to the sins of the flesh. I have sins I also struggled DAILY with and it’s a continual crucifying of the flesh, just as Paul talked about. I’m praying you find comfort in this and know that you are not alone.
Hi it could be a demonic oppression in which you’ll need deliverance. I believe if you ask God to set you free from any demons he will set you free. You can start by fasting and praying. I’m excited for your journey
Dealing with a narcissist can be like playing a game where the rules constantly change, and the goalposts are never quite within reach. It can be emotionally draining and challenging, especially when their behavior undermines your self-worth and efforts. I faced a challenging situation where my partner consistently diminished my achievements and overlooked my hard work. During this time, I learned the importance of focusing on my mental and emotional well-being above all else. Turning to close friends, supportive family members and a compassionate therapist proved to be invaluable in guiding me through the complexities of separating from a narcissistic partner. I discovered that keeping a record of our interactions and collecting evidence played a crucial role in navigating the legal aspects of the divorce process. Through it all, I held onto the belief that my value as a person is not dependent on someone else’s inability to recognize it. I stayed resilient, concentrated on my goals, and maintained faith in my capacity to build a brighter future for myself and those I care about. Thanks to my therapist.
I remember feeling as though I was constantly walking on eggshells, unsure of what mood or situation I would encounter next. However, it was through this journey that I discovered my strength and resilience. I learned the value of gratitude—gratitude for the lessons learned and the strength gained. Each day is an opportunity to grow and to choose happiness and peace over chaos. Thank you to those who stood by me, offering their unwavering support and love. Your presence was a beacon of hope in my darkest times. Remember, your worth is not defined by someone else’s inability to see it.