How to Raise a Snowflake (An Overly Sensitive, Easily Offended Person Who Struggles with Life)

By the new definition of what it means to be a snowflake, it feels like we’re living in a winter wonderland, where it truly makes one wonder, “How did we get here?” Maybe you’ve noticed that we live in a time more than ever where feelings rule and the main rule is that anything or anyone that hurts my feelings is wrong. Anything or anyone who makes me feel bad for any reason is wrong. Above all else, I must […]

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A Letter to My Daughters About Sexual Harassment & Living Here Right Now

Dear sweet young girls and women, You are strikingly beautiful–inside and out. Our culture values beauty but sometimes they get it wrong. They mistake seductive or sexy or desired for real beauty and it can get really confusing to those of you trying to make your way through it all. There are mildly inappropriate behaviors that both men and women can be guilty of projecting onto someone and there are wildly abusive behaviors that likewise can be inflicted and there […]

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Your Job is Not to be Amazing. So Just Stop Trying.

I saw it again, a mom’s post of her daughter’s birthday party, complete with (real, live) Disney Princesses, a speechlessly beautiful 3-tier cake, all the bouncy things and a Pinterest-perfect atmosphere. And it WAS beautiful and amazing. And I’m sure her daughter loved it. And no, there is nothing wrong with an amazing birthday party. But social media has made the contest to outdo each other more brutal than ever, where we can get caught up in making picture-perfect memories […]

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What Children Need to be Successful

Let Your Kids Watch Lifehacks Don’t we all just want to know what children need to be successful and worry that it’s all up to us? I was complaining to my kids about how many “life hack” videos they’ve watched this summer, even though there are worse things they could watch. Hours later, my younger daughter showed me a (homemade, pop-up) birthday card she was sending her friend, the envelope of which had lost its stickiness. She had sealed it […]

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The Secret to Less Stress in Homeschooling? The 3 R’s

Homeschoolers face a number of stresses. They have to answer neighbors and strangers alike about qualifications, feeling the constant need to prove the effectiveness of homeschooling, though its validation has been long proven. Curriculum choices abound and we are always looking at our homeschooling friends to see how they are doing it, always knowing we could be doing more. Because the truth is, we could. That’s the nature of learning–there’s an ocean to know. But we don’t have to drink […]

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The Sexual Revolution of Our Culture & What to Tell Our Children

I’ve been quiet here for a while about hot topics (mostly because my hot topic is running my household/home business and keeping all these people fed and happy). But because I think this is such a crucial issue and I know many Christian parents are grasping at straws about how to navigate through these murky waters with their children, I felt compelled to address one of the most controversial issues on the planet. We are living in a time where […]

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What to Do if You’re Married to a Narcissist

You may have noticed it’s been a while between the last post in the Narcissist Series and this one. It’s because this is so hard for me to write and also, not everyone will agree with me. This subject has caused a good deal of pain and dissension in the church, so I don’t enter this discussion lightly. Nor do I claim to have the authoritative answer. I don’t. I’m using my experience dealing with narcissists, my experience counseling people […]

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What the Church and Counselors Need to Understand About Narcissistic Abuse

One of the most difficult things about being married to a narcissist who is abusive (and no, I am not), is finding people who will not only listen to your plight, but understand it. And sadly, even if you find those people, they may not always know what to do to help. Is is my hope and prayer that church leaders and counselors begin to be educated about how to help people who find themselves in these emotionally abusive situations. […]

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What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder & How to Know if You’re Married to or Living with Someone with NPD

Why Use the Term Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Having had a family member (or two) with narcissistic personality disorder and having walked recently very closely with several women in narcissistic, abusive marriages, there are some important things I want to clarify surrounding the term itself, which some Christians do not like to acknowledge, especially the “disorder” part. Most of us have some degree of narcissism (self-love) but I’m referring in these posts to a person whose extreme narcissism has caused disruption […]

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Narcissistic Personality & Abuse in Marriage: A Series is Coming

One of the reasons I’ve been quieter here lately, is because I’m neck-deep in helping several women who are in/coming out of narcissistic abuse. I have so much I want to say, and there are so many things that need to be said, and I’m still formulating an order of how I’m going to say them and put them in a series.  (By the way, I’m only mentioning my personal involvement for the purpose of credibility on the subject.) I’d […]

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