I’m really enjoying the book, Gospel-Powered Parenting: How the Gospel Shapes and Transforms Parenting by William Farley. (Though there are a few points with which I disagree.)
I loved this point he made about avoiding a “child-centered” family, which can be so easy to have when you love those little rascals so much!
“It is important to love your children, but there is a fine line between healthy parental love and child worship. We know the latter has happened when we begin compromising God’s will for the sake of our children or their activities.
Compromise always point to idolatry. It displeases God. He does not like competitors, especially when they are our children.
The symptoms of “God-centeredness” are numerous. The first is a willingness to say “no” to a child when it is in the child’s best interest. A second symptom is a marriage in which Dad and Mom are united before their children, even when they disagree about a parenting direction. A third symptom of God-centeredness is the willingness to make our marriages more important than our children. (My note: I think he’s not insinuating that our children “aren’t as important”, but that a focus on marriage will inadvertently benefit our children the most.) A fourth symptom is a willingness to be different. God-centered homes will be radically different. “