Generation Cedar

It starts as early as sunrise some mornings.  And though I’m sleepy, I have a choice.

I can let my sleepiness be an excuse to waive off the challenges of the early morning, or I can rise up, face those little people with a smile and a cheery, “Good morning, doll face”, and get my mommy gear on.

I know you’re hungry, but don’t whine.  Be patient while I cook the grits.”

The training begins.

“Will you please get the spoons for me?”

“Speak kindly, please, she didn’t mean to do that.”

Reminding, replacing, encouraging, embracing.

“Who left their bowls at the table?”

Even though it would be easier to just take it to the sink myself, I go downstairs to call them up.

Habits are being formed, like railroads, as Sonya Shafer says, that will guide them for the rest of their lives.  Regular, good habits will give them a much easier ride.

There seems, in our day, to be a lot of children derailing.  Someone didn’t take the time.

“Let me show you how to hang up your clothes.”

“No, you don’t speak to your brother in that tone of voice.”

“Why don’t you let her go first…isn’t that what the Bible says?”

“Thank you so much for getting your sister out of the high chair.  You’re going to be a great Dad.”

Not even day by day, but minute by minute, we build people, shape people, grow people.

Cultivating habits of attentiveness, diligence, courtesy, integrity, honor, service, love, gratitude.

“Look people in the eyes when you speak.  It shows them you care about what they are saying.”

And I must prove I mean it by stopping to look them in the eyes….a hundred times a day.

It’s a relentless job.  There is little room for rest.  And sacrifice is always required.

But there is sweetness and peace in doing hard things that will impact the future, all the way into eternity.

Now that’s big.

A bigness worth a full time effort.

19 Responses

  1. What a wonderful post and sweet reminder of the important task God has blessed us with as parents!

    1. You’re sweet, Jen, but honestly I feel mostly inadequate as a mom. Thankfully, though, God doesn’t give children to just “great moms”; He makes great moms, one chiseled bit at a time, through her children. (And she shall be saved in childbearing.) 😉

  2. Been reading Laying Down Rails lately? 😉 I love the Simply Charlotte Mason site!
    I so needed this today. I have recently left the state of denial, thinking that my kids don’t need micro-managing. They absolutely do. And although it has produced very good results, I have been exhausted lately. Staying up late because I want the down-time so badly isn’t helping.
    I needed a reminder that the character I’m seeing in my kids is worth the sacrifice.

  3. I read a book recently that really helped me (Home-schooling with a Meek and Quiet Spirit by Teri Maxwell).

    The author said that instead of getting frustrated with our children, we should look at those hard times of training them as our joy and privilege.

    I struggle with that (frustration), but you were so right when you said:

    “But there is sweetness and peace in doing hard things that will impact the future, all the way into eternity.”

    I’m pressing on and begging God to help me overcome the temptation to show my frustration.

    Thank you for your blog. It is a bright spot in my life.

  4. Thanks. Love the eloquence. You say it well, using words that build up and encourage. Proverbs speaks of you, “She opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” In all gratitude.

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